“I Do”

This will be the first installment of marital nuggets to glean from. Prayerfully this will encourage you in your marriage, impact other couples around you and go on to reproduce vibrant healthy marriages in your children as they witness marriage as God intended.

The scriptural reference we chose in James 4:14, 15 is a reminder as couples we really do not know what tomorrow brings. The scripture also points out the brevity of our lives. We hear constantly that “life is too short to….” (Fill in the blank.)

Well, I have news for you! Life is too short to dwell on minor disruptions i.e. (disagreements, arguments and my personal favorite “intense fellowshipping”) which can cause you to miss the beauty God has created within your union, “the marriage”.

As the head of the home I understand the need to be right. In an effort to prove that you are the king of your castle; or women, you are the queen of the home and the “neck of the head” which can turn the head whichever way it wants.

Rather than fight the good fight against the one another work harmoniously together to allow your marriage to flourish as God purposed it to be.


Do you spend more time arguing than enjoying the mate the Lord has placed in your life?

What could be a healthy way to diffuse the argument or intense discussion to let peace have its way?

Do you always have to have the last word or is it ok to digress and revisit the discussion when both parties has had time to gather their thoughts and harness their emotions?

Scriptural ref:

Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” (James 4:14, 15 ESV).

A beautiful passage in Psalm 90 verse 12 sums up what James says in 4:14 and that is: So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (Psalms 90:12 KJV).

In HIS service,

Garvel & Tara Cassamajor